What to do to feel again after years of marriage that you care about each other?

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Personally, no, but if you know someone well for many years, you know what can "move" them, you know how to approach them to provide effective help, or at least you know what not to do, what not to waste time on, because it's ineffective. Big empathy is needed here.

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If the second person does not react to anything, there is hardly any hope for improvement. In my opinion, it doesn't make sense to continue a relationship without true love, where people are together out of habit. I know this is not the answer to the question, but I believe that in this matter there are no magical solutions, and if someone tries to evoke feelings in the other person and they do not reciprocate, nothing will work.

Maybe a common trip would help. Certainly, a conversation is needed. In extreme cases, couples therapy can be used.

"Do what you did when you were getting to know each other, go back to the moments that brought you together."

Sometimes it's worth giving yourself a little time - then it might turn out that the other person will realize how important we are to them in life. A person usually appreciates what they have lost. Personally, I would go this way.

Above all, support each other, especially in the worst moments of life.

I assume that you got married because your hearts were captivated by each other and you became important to each other. It seems that this foundation of your relationship can always be referred to because it lies within your immortal interiors, souls, your "selves," and nothing existential and passing with age will be able to change it - only dust it off and make routine activities mundane. The way to reach your hearts is through dialogue and mutual understanding. Sharing in the first person what I experience, what needs I have, ... so that your Partner knows you better (and you know Him) and understands, because love can only happen when you know someone (the more, the better - a task for a lifetime). Understanding gives birth to friendship - purity of intention is necessary, forgiveness is also essential, because limited understanding causes wounds! The fruit of friendship and unity is joy and "life" - as long as you fight and don't give up, you haven't lost ... life requires commitment and "life," ... and it is difficult.

"Throwing ideas, although usually the matter is complicated. It would be nice to understand what led to such a state and see if something can be done differently or reversed or fixed. Was it some event that needs to be fixed? Or maybe it's a matter of daily habits that sometimes arise in a justified way, for example, due to a difficult period in life, such as greater burden in relationships (such as young children, taking care of a sick family member), so there was less time and patience. Regarding the long-term relationship, I think some things can be worked out and are good, but there will always be some things and mismatches that will continue to accumulate if we don't consciously address them. It is difficult but worth observing and identifying such patterns or mutual 'spiraling' (which sometimes arises from our personal history). If we have such a pattern, we need to look for alternative behaviors. Couples therapy can sometimes help identify the above. It has great potential, but at the same time, I warn against the multitude of psychotherapists who do harm. It's worth giving it a chance but also looking at whether it helps or not. According to me, it should build you up and not bring you down. Sometimes individual therapy can also help work through the source of problems from one side (same as I warned about the incompetent ones, personally I particularly advise against psychodynamic therapy). There is a simple model of transactional analysis (adult, parent, child) - it may inspire - we look for changes that allow us to communicate with the other side from the position of an adult and not let ourselves be deterred from it. A great book about the 5 love languages showing that the concept of loving and being loved can be different for each person."

To feel again after years of marriage that you care about each other, it is important to maintain communication and mutual understanding. Here are a few proven ways: Spend time together: Find common interests and plan regular dates or outings that will allow you to spend time alone together. Communicate openly: Do not be afraid to talk about your needs, expectations, and difficulties. Mutual understanding is the key to maintaining emotional closeness. Express gratitude and appreciation: Thank each other for small things and express mutual recognition. This can make everyday life more enjoyable and strengthen the bond between you. Rediscover each other: Engage in joint projects that will revitalize your relationship. It can be a trip, learning a new skill, or a shared hobby. Seek help if needed: If you have problems in your relationship and the other person is not responding, consider seeking therapy. A professional therapist can help you work on difficulties and find common solutions. Personally, I have not had such an experience, but many people have found help and rebuilt their marriage using these strategies. However, it is important for both partners to be open to change and committed to improving the relationship.

Honestly, let's talk about how you're not feeling well, how you don't express how you feel. If it doesn't help, well, then I guess it's a breakup :(