When to visit a psychologist with a child?

I think that a visit to a psychologist is always recommended nowadays, it will not hurt you for sure, and a good chance that it will help us sort out some difficult matters in our life (...) It is a normal thing that we look for support from a professional.

Regards!

Children are very happy to share their thoughts with someone other than their parents - as long as you can establish good contact with them. However, they are extremely alert to any falsehood, inconsistency, or "betrayal" they understand about sharing their child's knowledge with their parents. Because parents have the right to know, and the psychologist has the right to communicate - in order to maintain good contact with the child, it is perfect to first agree with him what to say, explain why, and then do it in front of the child. Why am I writing about this? because I am a psychologist dealing with adults and I can clearly see how such an attitude of the first psychologist pays off in my life. Trust, the ability to open up and make contact easier. I am the mother of four, now long grown children, but - if I was a "guru" for students and patients, I was rarely a "guru" for my children during their teenage years. This is how it works - you are not a prophet in your own country. As for when to go to a psychologist with a child, besides, when someone else suggests it to us (a teacher, pedagogue, other parent, child's friend or neighbor) - it is always good to follow the child - ask him if he wants to talk. about THIS with someone who is not from the family, but knows how to listen and "knows about the problems".

Each of the topics listed is an area for working with a psychologist. It is important that the meeting with a psychologist is not treated as therapy, but as an opportunity for a new solution and support. The task of a psychologist is not only to listen, but also to present solutions and consequences that each of them brings.

When working with a child, you work with the entire family system. Parents and family are an extension of work at meetings with a psychologist. The most important thing is to "play to the same goal but from different positions".

It is worth coming to the meeting to talk to a psychologist. It is important to have an attitude towards meetings, it is worth going with the attitude "we are going to talk" and not "we are going because we have a problem". Peace and distance affect the effectiveness of work.

In my opinion, meetings with a psychologist are a journey to the "New Me", new ways of life, solutions to situations, new views on everyday and unusual matters. It is an adventure that, like a trip to the mountains, is not always easy, but worth experiencing. What stays in your head and heart after the trip stays there forever. Working with a psychologist is similar.

If in doubt, it's about time!

These days I would say that EVERYONE who has the opportunity should see a psychologist regularly. Every single person has some problems, smaller or larger, and a visit to a psychologist does not mean illness, but care. This should be the hygiene of our brain, just like washing your hair is hygiene

The basis should be the observation of the child's behavior. If we see a sudden alienation from the environment, we need to be alert. Especially if there were no problems before the pandemic. Remote learning has limited physical contact with peers, which also strongly reflects the stigma. Personally, working in the ambulance, I went to suicide attempts among the youngest many times during the pandemic. A conversation is needed, but not directed on the principle of "others have it worse", only listening to the child and listening to his needs. Unfortunately, we live in the present times where the "healthy" contact with the child disappears due to work. In addition, the current worldview comes out where a child who does not have new clothes and a phone is treated with distance (one of the reasons why children attempt suicide). In a situation when a child is under pressure, it is worth spending time with him and showing other ways out, infecting him with a new hobby or helping him pursue his passion, which will improve his overall well-being. Yes in short :)

I would go to a psychologist with a child immediately in a few cases:

• When a child suddenly changes its behavior, becomes apathetic, stops smiling, looks sad, thoughtful, etc. This may mean that something bad has happened and the child is experiencing it internally.
• In a situation where a difficult event took place, such as the death of a loved one.
• When the child is older and has already encountered hate on the Internet (about himself), perhaps parental support is enough. If this is the case on a daily basis, a psychologist may not be needed, but it also depends on the child (e.g. how sensitive he is). Here, it would definitely be useful to preventively control what the child is doing online. In the probably well-known movie "the social dilemma", social media specialists say that until the age of 16, we should block children from participating in social media, which I personally agree.

I have the impression that visits to a psychological clinic should be as preventive as visits to the dentist, caries are not always visible, just like not everything children tell us

In fact, we can always go to a psychologist. It is a bit more normal nowadays, but it has always been heavily bypassed and criticized. It was instilled in us by television, cabarets, jokes, parents, so we should set a better example and change it for the better. When to visit a psychologist with a child? If we see that the child is experiencing some difficult emotions, fears, tantrums or crying, if he has problems with which we cannot help him or we cannot cope with. It's always worth trying! Any help is better than no help.

I think any time is good to visit a psychologist nowadays. It is very important and it will not hurt you.

Najpierw należy znaleźć jakiekolwiek przesłanki .Załatwianie wszystkiego poprzez psychologa zaczęło być modne ale niekoniecznie zdrowe dla dzieci

Most of our psychological problems start with low self-esteem. Therefore, if as parents we managed to not destroy this self-esteem, but preferably strengthen it, our child will be quite resistant to the surrounding reality. Even if it's sensitive. This does not change the fact that a psychologist can be very helpful, but there are a few "buts":

1. The child must also be willing to participate in such meetings
2. if we send a child to a psychologist because we want to "fix" him, we will not get what we are waiting for. It's like taking a fever with antipyretics. As soon as we put them down, the fever will come back. You need to find the real cause of the problem, and this can only be seen during family therapy, where other household members are also involved in meetings with a psychologist

teenage behaviors that may cause concern:
➡long-term depressed mood,
➡sudden withdrawal from social life,
➡decrease in motivation lasting for a long time,
Difficulty sleeping (excessive sleep or insomnia)
➡problems with concentration,
➡stomachaches, headaches in difficult (stressful) situations,
➡self-destructive behavior (e.g. self-mutilation),
➡using psychoactive substances,
➡reporting suicidal thoughts by the child.

These are the most disturbing situations in which it is worth seeing a psychologist.