ENERGY PARASITES - HOW TO DEFEND FROM THE NEGATIVE ENERGY OF OTHER PEOPLE?

Along with empathy, the ability to recognize and feel other people's emotions, comes the drawback of absorbing the suffering and negativity of others around you. When this happens, your ability to function at its best may be significantly impaired. Even a person who is not so empathetic can be energetically touched when they are around negative or sad people. Absorbing other people's negative energy can be just as toxic to a person as eating unhealthy food, and maybe even more felt. Therefore, learning how to stop this phenomenon can be a valuable skill. Here are five methods you can use to absorb less negative energy from others around you. Be selective about the people you allow into your life You have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will like you and you don't have to be friends with everyone you meet. You don't have to push yourself to make friends with everyone you meet. Of course, you want to be polite, but trust your intuition when meeting new people and don't feel you have to spend time with people just because you've met them through company. Moreover, if you often feel like you need to discharge yourself on someone, you have a friend who is consistently negative about life, or you feel that someone in your life is regularly abusing or rude to you, it may be time to create some distance. Some friendships or relationships are just not good for you, and you need to be able to accept that. Once you've done this, you'll be able to free yourself from friends and acquaintances who are dropping their negativity on you. Learning to let go and say no to people allows more time for those we feel comfortable with. Don't try to please everyone We all only have so many hours in one day, so be selective about who you spend your time with. Don't waste it on people who don't seem to care about you. Just as you will not like certain people, so will there be people who will not like you or treat you kindly. Focus on developing relationships that seem to develop naturally, as opposed to working on getting people to like you, which you don't naturally feel attracted to. When you fake in interpersonal relationships it will keep you drained, and over time you will see yourself as others perceive you. Beware of Energy Vampires As mentioned, you may have friends who are always negative about life, but remember that some people can be even more toxic. These types can be called energy vampires because they suck all positive energy out of you and leave you with all their negativity. It drives them. Watch out for energy vampires who always use negative words and throw negative emotions on you. Note which "friends" are using pessimistic language or treating you like a soundboard for their negative feelings. You are probably absorbing all their negativity every time you see them. This does not mean that you should stop being present to a friend in need, but pay attention to those who use a kind ear or are inclined to use negative language constantly. Let them know how you feel about all this pessimism. If these "friends" don't understand that they are finishing you, then perhaps they are not really your friends. Be responsible for yourself You are the only one who has control over how you feel. In every situation, you have a choice of how you will react and what you will do. Some say it takes years of training to control your feelings, but it all starts with awareness that you can practice right now. Taking responsibility for yourself means you need to start to realize how you feel when certain people are around you. And then don't be afraid to take action. If you're spending time with someone who makes you feel bad or leaves you drained, it's time to create some distance between you and that person. Don't be a victim because you have the power to experience life. You absorb more goodness and less negativity. Think about how people, places, and situations are making you feel bad, and then take action to change what is not serving you. Spend Time Alone For some reason Western society has come to condemn personal qualities such as introversion, shyness, timidity, etc. However, the time spent alone and the personal discoveries that occur during this time can be quite healing and restorative. For some, loneliness is quite difficult, as this is the time when a person begins to really look at what is happening to his own self. However, it is necessary if you are to cultivate the awareness you need in order to be able to identify yourself when you absorb negative energy and perceive who in your life is an energy vampire. Remember simple tools such as slow breathing, quiet meditation, reading a good book, and spending time in nature. All of this is available for you to enjoy your solitude. Use these tools when you're ready to take action to get rid of unwanted energy toxicity and strengthen yourself for the next day.