In solving problems, the moment of the first collision with it is the most difficult. We feel anxiety or fear, which makes us want to push it away instead of working on a solution. As a result, a small problem can grow into a big one and finding a solution to the situation is even more difficult. Therefore, the most important thing for me is to work on my own willpower and patch the "mental holes" through which I make senseless or harmful decisions, such as succumbing to comfort or fear.

I assume that I have a limited amount of strength and time, so it is pointless to waste them on something that will ultimately bring me a loss. You have to keep evolving, not regressing. However, I know that all my efforts will not bring the desired result until I correct specific character defects in myself or eradicate harmful mental beliefs. The analogy of a bucket with a hole can be used here. It doesn't matter how much motivation, joy, knowledge, strength, etc. I pour into the leaky bucket, because over time it will all escape anyway.

To work on yourself, you need willpower, i.e. a certain internal decision that motivates you to act. Willpower is key to patching holes in a leaky bucket.

Such a curiosity. Several decades ago, an experiment was conducted in the USA. Fasting people were divided into two groups.

The first group was led into a room where a table was full of cookies, chocolate, and radishes. The investigators allowed a meal, and everyone ate what they wanted.

The second group was led into the same room, where there was exactly the same on the table. However, they were asked to eat only radishes. On their faces and in their behavior one could see an internal struggle with themselves not to eat the sweets.

In the next task, both groups were asked to put together puzzles that were impossible to solve. The group that ate only the radishes gave up after 8 minutes. The group that ate the sweets worked on the puzzle much longer, about 20 minutes.

This experiment shows that if a person makes an effort at one thing, then he may lack the energy to attend to other, more important things. Our "tank" with willpower is regularly used up during the day. That is why even seemingly unrelated things have a significant impact on each other, e.g. problems at work cause nervousness to be transferred home.

To sum up, my strategy is to find the source of the problem, if possible, and then solve it as soon as possible (or try to do so, because it is not always possible the first time), so that the negative consequences do not spread to other spheres of my life. It's better to have one trouble than several, and as I mentioned before, the willpower tank is not bottomless and it's better to take advantage of this supply while we still have the opportunity. Procrastination certainly won't help.

Jak opisałbyś swoje podejście do problemów i jakich strategii ich rozwiązywania uczysz się od innych?